Yes. Without any nail-biting.

zn wrote:

Zooey wrote:

Any tips? The best thing I’ve found there is to load up the kindling and use a gas torch to get the flames burning as quickly as possible.

One of my stoves is easy to light. Zoom–it just lights. The other is trickier. If I am not careful it will back smoke into the room. On that one, if I can, I burn candles in the stove for a while before trying to light er up. I always start slow with that one…doing bits of kindling first and then building up from there.

I have maple, ash, walnut, and oak.

I love oak. It burns slow and hot and burns down to nothing.

Cats, I find, burn too fast and don’t give off much heat. I prefer otters.

Candles, huh?

I got about 20′ of exterior stovepipe. I think I could put ten candles in there for an hour and it wouldn’t make any difference. I wonder about some kind of portable heater, though. Somebody must make a small propane heater for camping that would produce a bit of heat quickly.

I prefer oak, too, and imagine that’s what I will buy when I actually start buying wood. For now, I’m just burning the clean-up from my yard and my rental property. And the pine I got from the side of the road. The highway department, or somebody, dumps trees just off the freeway, and sometimes they cut them into rounds. Multiple sources tell me it’s all free for the gathering, and it was sitting there all summer, so I picked up a couple of trailer loads when my neighbor asked if I wanted to share a splitter. (I already needed one because of all the oak and elm on my properties). So I got nearly 2 cords of free pine. Apparently pine is not much in demand around here. Pine trees are practically weeds in this part of the country. The only firewood I see for sale is oak.

Dak wrote:

I’ve some trees cut from my property and my neighbor’s that I need to split. I will wait until year to do so. I’ll have to rent a splitter. So, how much is a cord. I know nothing about this stuff.

4x4x8.

Yeah, California is milder. And often nobody is home until the afternoon, so we tend to burn only from late afternoon until bedtime, then forget it. It is cold in the morning, but everybody is out of the house within 1/2 hour of getting up, and it isn’t bitter cold, so we just don’t bother. If it’s bad in the morning, we bump on the central heat because it spreads the heat faster than starting up a wood fire.

We trimmed up our American Elms this summer, and got about 1/3 cord out of it. I’ve never burned Elm before, but supposedly it’s okay. I will have to wait until next year to find out. I still have a lot of manzanita, about half a cord of cedar (which is also new to me this year), and a lot of oak and pine that has to wait until next year.

I agree that wood heat is better than gas or electric. Cozier. I do still get a lot a mornings when the smoke comes blasting into the room instead of going up the flue. Any tips? The best thing I’ve found there is to load up the kindling and use a gas torch to get the flames burning as quickly as possible.

wv wrote:

Winnbrad wrote:

Not worried at all.

12 months from now, if Goff still looks this bad, then yes I’m worried.

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I gotta feeling 12 months from now, the Rams will have a
No.1 WR for him to throw to, which should help.

One would think thats the no.1 need at this point,
anyway.

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The Rams do not have a first round pick next year, so I don’t see how they are going to get a #1 WR.

wv wrote:

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Well but what if he is being interviewed for a Job as a cop. Can the fact he ‘believes’ in Nazi-like ideas, be a deal-breaker?

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I would think so. But there’s nothing you can do about it if he gets the tattoo after he is hired. Except watch him carefully.

And I think that’s the consequence he has to pay. He is going to be scrutinized, the same as Kaepernick has to pay a price. Step out of the mainstream…it will cost you.

I thought Bradford had a one-year deal, and was a FA after this season. This is interesting.

And it seems like giving up a #1 for a one-year rental who will take a few weeks to get going is a high price. The Vikings must really believe they are close to make that move.

I gotta think the Vikes are not taking Bridgewater’s return next year for granted. And they probably shouldn’t.

Well, I hate their WRs. But I believe their OL is solidifying into a very good OL, and Gurley is possibly the best in the league, and his backups are as impressive a corps as I remember seeing. And the TEs look promising. So I’m going to say the Rams are going to move up to the middle of the pack in offensive competency this year.

Their defense starts off the season less cohesive than last year’s, but I think it will improve as it gels with the exception of CB which I see as a problem suddenly. I think Jenkins and McLeod were big losses. I think McLeod’s position may be easier to fill with what they have on the roster, but Sensabaugh is my least favorite Ram right now, and I am not confident about that.

I’m going with 9-7. 10-6 if they avoid their typical rash of IRs.

zn wrote:

bnw wrote:

Who wears 34?

34 is Chase Reynolds.

From Drummond, Montana.

I feel like I know him because I spend a night at the Drummond Motel last summer on my way to Jellystone.

bnw wrote:

A non issue.

Right. It’s nothing serious like, say, a pickle jar. THAT reflects character.

C’mon.

It has the same wingspread, and the Gothic font.

There is no way it isn’t exactly what it looks like.

Yeah, I agree with you. I think the Green Party ought to represent the far right in this country.

InvaderRam wrote:

some guys just take a little longer. aikman was the number one overall pick, and it took him until his third year before he started showing his ability.

eli manning was also the number one overall pick, and it wasn’t until his fifth year that he showed he was a capable qb.

some guys just take longer. i saw goff’s first drive, and there are signs. i just hope it doesn’t take three seasons before he shows his ability. i hope against hope that he has a chance to start by midseason.

I don’t know how he gets the reps, though. Keenum gets the reps. That’s the way it goes.

I don’t foresee the guy starting this year. He doesn’t look close to me. He looks like half Sam Bradford, half Keystone Cops.

The guy is just not ready. At all.

On the bright side, he doesn’t look overwhelmed. At least I haven’t seen any symptoms of damaged confidence.

He just isn’t used to taking snaps from center, and the game is too fast.

I don’t know that “mentally ill” is the correct term. I have not read a lot about psychology. I always wanted to take a class in college, but never got around to it. But I think mental illness as a category is likely to cover medical issues rather than “craziness.” Stuff like depression, bi-polar disorders, chemical imbalances, and the like.

In reading about narcissism, I came across “schema therapy,” an approach to “maladaptive” schemas. These are ways of interpreting the world in a defective and unhealthy way. Dr. Jeffrey Young has identified 18 of these, and I think these are a better explanation for these world views than the concept of mental illness.

Here they are:

Early Maladaptive Schemas

1. ABANDONMENT / INSTABILITY (AB)

The perceived instability or unreliability of those available for support and connection.
Involves the sense that significant others will not be able to continue providing emotional support, connection, strength, or practical protection because they are emotionally unstable and unpredictable (e.g., angry outbursts), unreliable, or erratically present; because they will die imminently; or because they will abandon the patient in favor of someone better.

2. MISTRUST / ABUSE (MA)

The expectation that others will hurt, abuse, humiliate, cheat, lie, manipulate, or take advantage. Usually involves the perception that the harm is intentional or the result of unjustified and extreme negligence. May include the sense that one always ends up being cheated relative to others or “getting the short end of the stick.”

3. EMOTIONAL DEPRIVATION (ED)

Expectation that one’s desire for a normal degree of emotional support will not be adequately met by others. The three major forms of deprivation are:
A. Deprivation of Nurturance: Absence of attention, affection, warmth, or companionship.
B. Deprivation of Empathy: Absence of understanding, listening, self-disclosure, or mutual sharing of feelings from others.
C. Deprivation of Protection: Absence of strength, direction, or guidance from others.

4. DEFECTIVENESS / SHAME (DS)

The feeling that one is defective, bad, unwanted, inferior, or invalid in important respects; or that one would be unlovable to significant others if exposed. May involve hypersensitivity to criticism, rejection, and blame; self-consciousness, comparisons, and insecurity around others; or a sense of shame regarding one’s perceived flaws. These flaws may be private (e.g., selfishness, angry impulses, unacceptable sexual desires) or public (e.g., undesirable physical appearance, social awkwardness).

5. SOCIAL ISOLATION / ALIENATION (SI)

The feeling that one is isolated from the rest of the world, different from other people, and/or not part of any group or community.

6. DEPENDENCE / INCOMPETENCE (DI)

Belief that one is unable to handle one’s everyday responsibilities in a competent manner, without considerable help from others (e.g., take care of oneself, solve daily problems, exercise good judgment, tackle new tasks, make good decisions). Often presents as helplessness.

7. VULNERABILITY TO HARM OR ILLNESS (VH)

Exaggerated fear that imminent catastrophe will strike at any time and that one will be unable to prevent it. Fears focus on one or more of the following: (A) Medical Catastrophes: e.g., heart attacks, AIDS; (B) Emotional Catastrophes: e.g., going crazy; (C): External Catastrophes: e.g., elevators collapsing, victimized by criminals, airplane crashes, earthquakes.

8. ENMESHMENT / UNDEVELOPED SELF (EM)

Excessive emotional involvement and closeness with one or more significant others (often parents), at the expense of full individuation or normal social development. Often involves the belief that at least one of the enmeshed individuals cannot survive or be happy without the constant support of the other. May also include feelings of being smothered by, or fused with, others OR insufficient individual identity. Often experienced as a feeling of emptiness and floundering, having no direction, or in extreme cases questioning one’s existence.

9. FAILURE TO ACHIEVE (FA)

The belief that one has failed, will inevitably fail, or is fundamentally inadequate relative to one’s peers, in areas of achievement (school, career, sports, etc.). Often involves beliefs that one is stupid, inept, untalented, ignorant, lower in status, less successful than others, etc.

10. ENTITLEMENT / GRANDIOSITY (ET)

The belief that one is superior to other people; entitled to special rights and privileges; or not bound by the rules of reciprocity that guide normal social interaction. Often involves insistence that one should be able to do or have whatever one wants, regardless of what is realistic, what others consider reasonable, or the cost to others; OR an exaggerated focus on superiority (e.g., being among the most successful, famous, wealthy) — in order to achieve power or control (not primarily for attention or approval). Sometimes includes excessive competitiveness toward, or domination of, others: asserting one’s power, forcing one’s point of view, or controlling the behavior of others in line with one’s own desires—without empathy or concern for others’ needs or feelings.

11. INSUFFICIENT SELF-CONTROL / SELF-DISCIPLINE (IS)

Pervasive difficulty or refusal to exercise sufficient self-control and frustration tolerance to achieve one’s personal goals, or to restrain the excessive expression of one’s emotions and impulses. In its milder form, patient presents with an exaggerated emphasis on discomfort-avoidance: avoiding pain, conflict, confrontation, responsibility, or overexertion—at the expense of personal fulfillment, commitment, or integrity.

12. SUBJUGATION (SB)

Excessive surrendering of control to others because one feels coerced – – usually to avoid anger, retaliation, or abandonment. The two major forms of subjugation are:
A. Subjugation of Needs: Suppression of one’s preferences, decisions, and desires.
B. Subjugation of Emotions: Suppression of emotional expression, especially anger.
Usually involves the perception that one’s own desires, opinions, and feelings are not valid or important to others. Frequently presents as excessive compliance, combined with hypersensitivity to feeling trapped. Generally leads to a build up of anger, manifested in maladaptive symptoms (e.g., passive-aggressive behavior, uncontrolled outbursts of temper, psychosomatic symptoms, withdrawal of affection, “acting out”, substance abuse).

13. SELF-SACRIFICE (SS)

Excessive focus on voluntarily meeting the needs of others in daily situations, at the expense of one’s own gratification. The most common reasons are: to prevent causing pain to others; to avoid guilt from feeling selfish; or to maintain the connection with others perceived as needy . Often results from an acute sensitivity to the pain of others. Sometimes leads to a sense that one’s own needs are not being adequately met and to resentment of those who are taken care of. (Overlaps with concept of codependency.)

14. APPROVAL-SEEKING / RECOGNITION-SEEKING (AS)

Excessive emphasis on gaining approval, recognition, or attention from other people, or fitting in, at the expense of developing a secure and true sense of self. One’s sense of esteem is dependent primarily on the reactions of others rather than on one’s own natural inclinations. Sometimes includes an overemphasis on status, appearance, social acceptance, money, or achievement — as means of gaining approval, admiration, or attention (not primarily for power or control). Frequently results in major life decisions that are inauthentic or unsatisfying; or in hypersensitivity to rejection.

15. NEGATIVITY / PESSIMISM (NP)

A pervasive, lifelong focus on the negative aspects of life (pain, death, loss, disappointment, conflict, guilt, resentment, unsolved problems, potential mistakes, betrayal, things that could go wrong, etc.) while minimizing or neglecting the positive or optimistic aspects. Usually includes an exaggerated expectation– in a wide range of work, financial, or interpersonal situations — that things will eventually go seriously wrong, or that aspects of one’s life that seem to be going well will ultimately fall apart. Usually involves an inordinate fear of making mistakes that might lead to: financial collapse, loss, humiliation, or being trapped in a bad situation. Because potential negative outcomes are exaggerated, these patients are frequently characterized by chronic worry, vigilance, complaining, or indecision.

16. EMOTIONAL INHIBITION (EI)

The excessive inhibition of spontaneous action, feeling, or communication — usually to avoid disapproval by others, feelings of shame, or losing control of one’s impulses. The most common areas of inhibition involve: (a) inhibition of anger & aggression; (b) inhibition of positive impulses (e.g., joy, affection, sexual excitement, play); (c) difficulty expressing vulnerability or communicating freely about one’s feelings, needs, etc.; or (d) excessive emphasis on rationality while disregarding emotions.

17. UNRELENTING STANDARDS / HYPERCRITICALNESS (US)

The underlying belief that one must strive to meet very high internalized standards of behavior and performance, usually to avoid criticism. Typically results in feelings of pressure or difficulty slowing down; and in hypercriticalness toward oneself and others. Must involve significant impairment in: pleasure, relaxation, health, self-esteem, sense of accomplishment, or satisfying relationships.
Unrelenting standards typically present as: (a) perfectionism, inordinate attention to detail, or an underestimate of how good one’s own performance is relative to the norm; (b) rigid rules and “shoulds” in many areas of life, including unrealistically high moral, ethical, cultural, or religious precepts; or (c) preoccupation with time and efficiency, so that more can be accomplished.

18. PUNITIVENESS (PU)

The belief that people should be harshly punished for making mistakes. Involves the tendency to be angry, intolerant, punitive, and impatient with those people (including oneself) who do not meet one’s expectations or standards. Usually includes difficulty forgiving mistakes in oneself or others, because of a reluctance to consider extenuating circumstances, allow for human imperfection, or empathize with feelings.

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As for what leads to this increase in maladaption, I would suggest that a lot of it may stem from the way our society has morphed since the industrial revolution. We are atomizing. We don’t live in molecular societies the way we used to. I have no data to back this up at all, but I would wager you would find greater mental health overall in more primitive communities than in more modern ones. Technology has greased the skids for increasing social isolation even as it presents the appearance of opening up greater social opportunities. I don’t know. But the alt right is troubling precisely because of the sincerity of their beliefs, and their unwillingness or inability to step out of maladaptive schemas.