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June 14, 2016 at 1:34 pm #46133Billy_TParticipant
Sigh.
Well, who can argue with “sigh”? Congrats, bnw. You won the Internet today.
;>)
June 14, 2016 at 1:41 pm #46134bnwBlocked;-}
The upside to being a Rams fan is heartbreak.
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June 14, 2016 at 1:42 pm #46135joemadParticipantSo what we have here is a sexually-conflicted man who suffered self-hatred because of all the “gays will go to hell” stuff he believed.
that was my initial gut feeling on Sunday morning this mass murder broke…… sadly not many are sensitive to mass shootings… I had 3 softball games that day, and not once was this shooting discussed amongst us in the dugout.
We talked OJ, Draymond Green’s suspension, good Chinese food, Giants baseball, family, even the Cal guys who know me as the lone Rams fan talked about Goff (BTW, they love Goff)
not once did this tragedy come up in conversation while spending 6 hours at a softball field.
June 14, 2016 at 1:51 pm #46136znModeratorSigh.
Well, who can argue with “sigh”? Congrats, bnw. You won the Internet today.
;>)
Some of us have already transgressed a bit. So let’s stay inbounds now to make up for it.
June 14, 2016 at 4:20 pm #46141bnwBlockedSigh.
Well, who can argue with “sigh”? Congrats, bnw. You won the Internet today.
;>)
Some of us have already transgressed a bit. So let’s stay inbounds now to make up for it.
What a banner day. Billy admits defeat and you complimented my mod skills. Rest assured I remain bnw, the source of reason and harmony in this Public House.
The upside to being a Rams fan is heartbreak.
Sprinkles are for winners.
June 14, 2016 at 4:30 pm #46142znModeratorSigh.
Well, who can argue with “sigh”? Congrats, bnw. You won the Internet today.
;>)
Some of us have already transgressed a bit. So let’s stay inbounds now to make up for it.
What a banner day. Billy admits defeat and you complimented my mod skills. Rest assured I remain bnw, the source of reason and harmony in this Public House.
June 15, 2016 at 4:24 am #46177MackeyserModeratorWhat do we know?
1) The people calling for actual changes in gun laws aren’t Democrats because Democrats don’t have the balls (Connecticut Dems aside. I’ll give them credit. But they learned the hard way when they got abandoned by the rest of the Dems). Fuckin-A. If the slaughter of kids isn’t enough to go to the mattresses with the NRA, then nothing is, so screw every LAST Democrat and their milquetoast stance on guns.
2) The belief that a “good guy with a gun will defeat a bad guy with a gun” was put to the test and soundly defeated. There was an armed off duty cop inside the club at the time of the attack who DID engage the attacker. And STILL, 49 people dead and 53 people injured. Next argument will be “it was just one gunfight” or “the officer was outgunned”… uh huh…
3) The attacker was someone who was either a closeted gay man who was sexually active or exploring that possibility while openly in a very conservative Muslim family. Whether it was self-loathing, mental illness, a mental breakdown from not being able to reconcile his outer and inner self or some unknowable combination, a tragedy ensued.
4) This was NOT Islamic fundamentalist terrorism. The attacker knew less about terror groups than news producers do here in the US, which is to say barely any at all. He pledged allegiance to the head of ISIS and to Hizbollah which is fighting ISIS and the head of Al-Nusra which is also in conflict with ISIS. Him pledging his allegiances must have sounded like Eddie Murphy telling his VietNam story in the beginning of Trading Places, it was so absurd to anyone who knew even the slightest thing that it’s cringeworthy.
5) Victims mean nothing, anymore. We’ve heard about the killer, his father, his ex-wife and even what celebrities had to say on twitter and Instragram. But the media is going to keep the victims as “the victims” with no voice. It’s important that people speak for and about them, but under no circumstances will they be allowed to speak for themselves.
6) The next tragedy is only a few days away. It is a blessing that the death of my daughter forever broke my heart such that as much as I’ve tried over the years to harden my heart to the animals that call themselves people or worse, have the arrogance and hubris to believe for a moment that they have the grace to be human… I just can’t. I have cried or been on the verge of tears feeling the pain of loss. Is it worse because it’s so pointless? I read blogs and posts with poems from the community and hear the words and listen to the outcry…truly just try to listen. Now it is not for me to speak. Not yet. Even to my child…I just listen…and we embrace, and I pray that we’ll be safe today because that’s all we have. And even with all of that, I know the heartless clock is counting down and the next tragedy, the next “thing we can’t imagine”, the next “unexplainable” thing that we have so ingrained that the MSM have packages for explaining it…WILL happen…soon…within DAYS. And I will mourn again. My heart will not harden…because it can’t. I’ve been blessed.
7) We’re all insane. Whether it’s Climate Catastrophe or this cycle of mass killings or institutional dysfunction (corporate or governmental) that allow for water poisoning in Flint, MI or Hoosick Falls, NY or umpteen other examples of entities where people in charge felt it was okay to put other people at risk for their own gain, be it monetary, power or something else. We’re all insane because we really COULD solve all of these problems, but as a citizenry, we’ve decided in absentia that solving our problems just isn’t that important. We can always point to systems and people at the top and some “other” and KNOW they are the cause of our collective demise. It may even be true. It doesn’t change that for the most part, we as a citizenry acquiesce to most of this garbage which the masters are all too happy with.
8) If we want the world to change, we have to BE the change. That’s not just a slogan. If we want grace, we have to be graceful. If we want peace, we have to be peaceful.
In light of all of this and likely other things I’ve missed, it would be all too easy to give in to sarcasm and pessimism. I won’t do that. We all deserve to be happy, to feel loved and to feel like we belong. That’s worth fighting for.
Sports is the crucible of human virtue. The distillate remains are human vice.
June 15, 2016 at 6:55 am #46183bnwBlockedMackeyser,
To your
#2 above. It was a no gun zone. Thats also a reason why he chose it. Licensed conceal carry patrons won’t lie on the bathroom floor waiting to be executed.
#3 above. I think it possible SSRI antidepressants were involved as they frequently are in these shootings.
#4 above. In the end he professed allegiance to the leader of ISIS.
#5. above. The victims are heard through family and friends at least initially. It is unfortunate that over time they are relegated to statistics whereas the murderer still has a name.
more later
The upside to being a Rams fan is heartbreak.
Sprinkles are for winners.
June 15, 2016 at 7:46 am #46189wvParticipantWhat do we know?…
7) We’re all insane. Whether it’s Climate Catastrophe or this cycle of mass killings or institutional dysfunction (corporate or governmental) that allow for water poisoning in Flint, MI or Hoosick Falls, NY or umpteen other examples of entities where people in charge felt it was okay to put other people at risk for their own gain, be it monetary, power or something else. We’re all insane because we really COULD solve all of these problems, but as a citizenry, we’ve decided in absentia that solving our problems just isn’t that important. We can always point to systems and people at the top and some “other” and KNOW they are the cause of our collective demise. It may even be true. It doesn’t change that for the most part, we as a citizenry acquiesce to most of this garbage which the masters are all too happy with.8) If we want the world to change, we have to BE the change. That’s not just a slogan. If we want grace, we have to be graceful. If we want peace, we have to be peaceful.
In light of all of this and likely other things I’ve missed, it would be all too easy to give in to sarcasm and pessimism. I won’t do that. …
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Well Mack, weve been discussing “how the people got this way” for a decade now.I have a book I leave on a table close to my front door. I have to pass it to go out the front door. It’s called “Dont Blame the People”. I glance at the title everyday before i leave the house. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it dont.
Sometimes I remember the system shapes, moulds, creates these…’voters’ we are surrounded by. …I’m not sure if knowing that is a blessing or a curse though….I mean…what can we DO about an entire, omnipresent, white-noise of a system….What can we do?
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v“….The last and most obstinate of the impediments in the way of forceful
political dissent is what Walter Karp understood to be the
“corrupting consolation of cynicism.” Karp employed the phrase
to describe the attitude of mind adopted by a generation of American
intellectuals responding to the Wilson administration’s harsh suppression
of unlicensed speech during and after World War I. Finding themselves
suffocated by a climate of opinion in which dissent was disloyalty
and disloyalty a crime, a good many independent-minded and once
outspoken citizens acquired the habit of looking at the national political
scene from the point of view of spectators at a tenement fire or a train wreck.
As compensation for their loss of a public voice, they retired to a library or
a lawn party and there contented themselves with private and literary
expressions of anger and disgust. Language served as an end in itself,
the imagination a vehicle for escaping reality rather than a means of
grasping or apprehending it.
The attitude is one that ive encountered often enough in myself to
recognize in other people — not only among the card carrying members of the
country’s various intellectual guilds but also among the well-to-do gentry
content to leave the business of government to the hired help. Our schools
teach marketing instead of history, and the prosperity of the last thirty years
has encouraged a disdain for politics on the part of people who imagine
liberty is an asset inherited at birth — together with the grandfather clock
and the house on the lake — rather than the product of hard and constant
labor….Lewis Lapham—
another locus of this theme of the decline that shows up as pseudo renewal, is
the work of Don DeLillo, particularly his novel White Noise. The book is literally
a masterpiece, portraying as it does a busy commercial culture that Is riddled with
purposelessness and paranoia. …the central character Jack Gladney, a college
professor…stops in a shopping mall and thinks to himself: ‘I realized the place was
awash in noise. The toneless systems, the jangle and skid of carts, the loud-speaker
and coffee making machines, the cries of children. And over it all, or under it all,
a dull unlocatable roar, as if some form of swarming life just outside the range of
human apprehension. M. Berman quoting D.DeLillo’s novel.“The networks, the circuits, the streams, the harmonies,” he thinks to himself
appreciatively, after checking his bank balance at an ATM. “The system
was invisible, which made it all the more impressive…”This notion of invisibility — of no one in this glorious new age of corporate cyberglobalism
being to blame because the system is not really located anywhere (but everywhere)
— is important for an understanding of the present crisis of American culture
M. Berman quoting D.DeLillo’s novel.—
“…Because the schools serve an economic system rather than a
political or philosophical idea, they promote, not unreasonably
, the habits of mind necessary to the preservation of that system,
which is why an American education resembles the commercial
procedure that changes caterpillers into silkworms instead of
butterflies. Silkworms can be turned to a profit, but butterflies
blow around in the wind and do nothing to add to the wealth
of the corporation or the power of the state. “ L.LaphamJune 15, 2016 at 2:02 pm #46210znModeratorEx-Wife Says Orlando Shooter Might Have Been Hiding Homosexuality From His Family
https://www.yahoo.com/news/ex-wife-says-orlando-shooter-105927115.html
Omar Mateen’s sexuality was the least of Sitora Yusufiy’s worries.
Their five-month marriage was abusive from the start. He was controlling. He kept her from seeing her family. He beat her, pulled her hair, dug his fingernails into the soft flesh of her wrists when she wandered away from him in the supermarket.
But when she thinks back on the brief marriage seven years ago, there are other recollections that come to mind. “There were things he would do in his daily life that most straight men don’t do,” she said in a phone interview with TIME on Tuesday.
“He would take a long time in front of the mirror, he would often take pictures of himself, and he made little movements with his body that definitely made me question things,” she recalled, “It definitely popped up in my head whether he was totally straight.”
Mateen and Yusufiy met on Myspace and were married from April to August 2009, until her parents sensed she was unhappy and came down to Florida from New Jersey to check on her. When they realized she was in an abusive situation, Yusufiy’s parents took her back to New Jersey with them, and the marriage abruptly ended.
Yusufiy said she never noticed anything in their sex life that would lead her to believe Mateen was gay. But she noted that any kind of sexual exploration would have been totally forbidden by Mateen’s strict Afghan family.
“In his family structure, homosexuality was really not tolerated,” she said. “And one of the directions of his life was to be a perfect son.”
That pressure to be live up to his father’s strict expectations often led Mateen to lash out with violence, she says. Once, she recalled, she fell asleep on the floor while watching TV and he started beating her as she slept. He yanked the pillow out from under her, pulled her by her hair, and then started to choke her. Hours later, when she asked him what happened, at first he claimed he was angry that she hadn’t finished the laundry. Then he revealed that he’d had a fight with his father.
As the only son of Afghan immigrants, Mateen was subject to high expectations from his parents. “It’s pretty pressured. You have to be perfect in every way, you have to have a high education, you have to be totally respectful,” Yusufiy said. “And not be in any way homosexual, that’s for sure.”
Mateen’s sexuality has been in question since he was revealed as the killer. Various media outlets have reported that that users on the gay dating app Jack’d say they have exchanged messages with Mateen, but the CEO of Jack’d says they have not yet found any proof that Mateen had an account. A former classmate at Indian River Community College told the Palm Beach Post that Mateen went to gay bars with classmates and once tried to pick him up. Four regulars at Pulse, the nightclub where the shooting occurred, told the Orlando Sentinel they had seen Mateen there before.
But Pulse is about a two hour drive from Mateen’s home in Fort Pierce, FL, and it would take four hours of driving to go there and back in one night. Nobody recalled ever seeing him at TattleTails, a gay bar just a few miles from his apartment. In three gay bars in West Palm Beach, an hour from Mateen’s home, none of the bartenders or customers told TIME they remembered ever seeing him.
Yusufiy recalls once hearing Mateen’s father Seddique Mateen call his son gay in Farsi, but Mateen laughed it off. “They had this relationship where Omar was always trying to impress him and be the perfect son for his father and live up to his approval, because his father is such a prominent political figure,” she said.
The elder Mateen repeatedly rebuffed questions about homosexuality in an interview, including multiple queries about whether his son might have been motivated by homophobia and whether could have been gay. At one point, he said “Let me tell you: my son is not gay. He’s not.”
Yusufiy isn’t so sure. “It’s just making more sense in my head from my personal experience that this was probably it,” she said. “He might have been homosexual himself and lived that lifestyle but could never ever come clean about it because of the standards of his father, because of the obligation to be a perfect son,” she added.
June 15, 2016 at 2:13 pm #46211znModeratorEx-Wife Says Orlando Shooter Might Have Been Hiding Homosexuality From His Family
Enh.
This one is all just speculation.
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June 15, 2016 at 3:29 pm #46217wvParticipantJune 15, 2016 at 8:54 pm #46257MackeyserModeratorMackeyser,
To your
#2 above. It was a no gun zone. Thats also a reason why he chose it. Licensed conceal carry patrons won’t lie on the bathroom floor waiting to be executed.
#3 above. I think it possible SSRI antidepressants were involved as they frequently are in these shootings.
#4 above. In the end he professed allegiance to the leader of ISIS.
#5. above. The victims are heard through family and friends at least initially. It is unfortunate that over time they are relegated to statistics whereas the murderer still has a name.
more later
He didn’t “choose” it because it was a “no gun zone”. He had been a frequent visitor there. And he had multiple gay dating apps on his phone AND he had used those apps to communicate with gay men. We still are finding out if he actually was gay or was internally coming to terms with his sexuality. But the idea that he chose the Pulse exclusively or even remotely in part because it was a “no gun zone” is just wrong.
I can’t say anything about any anti-depressants. You’ve mentioned them multiple times and it sounds like you have an agenda that you’d like to share and will at some point. I don’t think they had any bearing on this tragedy although they might.
As I said, he pledged allegiance to the head of several groups that are fighting one another. You can’t just cherry pick ISIS and leave out Hizbollah which is fighting ISIS or the Al-Nusra Front which is also in conflict with ISIS. If he didn’t say something, people would have easily pieced together why he did what he did. Turns out it’s not that hard and the truth is pretty evident. It had nothing whatsoever to do with terror or any terror groups.
I’ll leave my point on #5 stand. I pretty much agree with you, but the coverage hasn’t really even let family or friends speak on their behalf and they certainly haven’t let victims speak when they are capable. So glad Nick Jonas got the mic, tho…
Sports is the crucible of human virtue. The distillate remains are human vice.
June 16, 2016 at 8:43 am #46282bnwBlockedMackeyser,
To your
#2 above. It was a no gun zone. Thats also a reason why he chose it. Licensed conceal carry patrons won’t lie on the bathroom floor waiting to be executed.
#3 above. I think it possible SSRI antidepressants were involved as they frequently are in these shootings.
#4 above. In the end he professed allegiance to the leader of ISIS.
#5. above. The victims are heard through family and friends at least initially. It is unfortunate that over time they are relegated to statistics whereas the murderer still has a name.
more later
He didn’t “choose” it because it was a “no gun zone”. He had been a frequent visitor there. And he had multiple gay dating apps on his phone AND he had used those apps to communicate with gay men. We still are finding out if he actually was gay or was internally coming to terms with his sexuality. But the idea that he chose the Pulse exclusively or even remotely in part because it was a “no gun zone” is just wrong.
I can’t say anything about any anti-depressants. You’ve mentioned them multiple times and it sounds like you have an agenda that you’d like to share and will at some point. I don’t think they had any bearing on this tragedy although they might.
As I said, he pledged allegiance to the head of several groups that are fighting one another. You can’t just cherry pick ISIS and leave out Hizbollah which is fighting ISIS or the Al-Nusra Front which is also in conflict with ISIS. If he didn’t say something, people would have easily pieced together why he did what he did. Turns out it’s not that hard and the truth is pretty evident. It had nothing whatsoever to do with terror or any terror groups.
I’ll leave my point on #5 stand. I pretty much agree with you, but the coverage hasn’t really even let family or friends speak on their behalf and they certainly haven’t let victims speak when they are capable. So glad Nick Jonas got the mic, tho…
He definitely chose it because it was a no gun zone. He said that crap to the FBI years ago and they bought it. In the end he made it very clear he was ISIS in the 911 call and his Facebook posting during the standoff that the wicked ways of the west motivated the attack. He was radicalized in his two recent visits to Saudi Arabia and possibly his mosque. He did exactly what ISIS has been calling for and warning, that those in the US carry out attacks. It was definitely terrorism.
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June 16, 2016 at 10:36 am #46297znModeratorn the end he made it very clear he was ISIS in the 911 call and his Facebook posting during the standoff that the wicked ways of the west motivated the attack. He was radicalized in his two recent visits to Saudi Arabia and possibly his mosque.
What possible basis are your sources coming up with to justify claiming that his MOSQUE was a source of being radicalized? You know those sources better than I do…why, other than the simple fact it IS a mosque, is his mosque being blamed? You do know that local people are threatening that mosque and people in it?
Many of the women say they are concerned about anti-Muslim violence in response to the attacks, and they are upset that the actions of one disturbed congregant would reflect poorly on the entire community at the center. “We’re afraid of backlash, targeting us because he came to this mosque,” Alladin says. None of the women interviewed say they could recall any time when anti-gay sentiments were ever expressed at the mosque, and all say that gay Muslims would be welcome to worship there.
Shock, Disappointment and Kindness From Worshippers at Shooter’s Mosque
And what evidence does anyone have that he actually was “radicalized”? I mean actually, not just using it clumsily as a facade. Other than his comments during the shooting, which btw make no sense and so far sound like a lot of bs on his part. (So according to that, which I think is the Fox narrative, he made something “very clear”–according to other narratives, he actually confused things with those comments, which don’t add up.)
One example: some claim he was saying HIS country was being bombed. Other than the fact that his country is the USA, that is taken as meaning Afghanistan. Yet he also commented that the USA and Russia were bombing ISIS. That’s in Syria. Syria, ISIS, and Russia have nothing to do with Afghanistan.
I know that as usual FOX is pushing one version of this.
June 16, 2016 at 12:54 pm #46339bnwBlockedn the end he made it very clear he was ISIS in the 911 call and his Facebook posting during the standoff that the wicked ways of the west motivated the attack. He was radicalized in his two recent visits to Saudi Arabia and possibly his mosque.
What possible basis are your sources coming up with to justify claiming that his MOSQUE was a source of being radicalized? You know those sources better than I do…why, other than the simple fact it IS a mosque, is his mosque being blamed? You do know that local people are threatening that mosque and people in it?
Many of the women say they are concerned about anti-Muslim violence in response to the attacks, and they are upset that the actions of one disturbed congregant would reflect poorly on the entire community at the center. “We’re afraid of backlash, targeting us because he came to this mosque,” Alladin says. None of the women interviewed say they could recall any time when anti-gay sentiments were ever expressed at the mosque, and all say that gay Muslims would be welcome to worship there.
Shock, Disappointment and Kindness From Worshippers at Shooter’s Mosque
And what evidence does anyone have that he actually was “radicalized”? I mean actually, not just using it clumsily as a facade. Other than his comments during the shooting, which btw make no sense and so far sound like a lot of bs on his part. (So according to that, which I think is the Fox narrative, he made something “very clear”–according to other narratives, he actually confused things with those comments, which don’t add up.)
One example: some claim he was saying HIS country was being bombed. Other than the fact that his country is the USA, that is taken as meaning Afghanistan. Yet he also commented that the USA and Russia were bombing ISIS. That’s in Syria. Syria, ISIS, and Russia have nothing to do with Afghanistan.
I know that as usual FOX is pushing one version of this.
I said POSSIBLY his mosque. It was through his mosque that he was in contact with a known jihadi which was why the FBI had questioned him.
See you can’t grasp that he never viewed the USA as his country. He never identified as being an american. The USA bombed the country he identified with, Afghanistan. As I wrote before he went with the enemy of my enemy is my friend, hence his allegiance to ISIS.
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June 16, 2016 at 1:04 pm #46346znModeratorI said POSSIBLY his mosque. It was through his mosque that he was in contact with a known jihadi which was why the FBI had questioned him
The actual reports on that concluded that “contact” was nothing.
And I submit that it is not even POSSIBLY his mosque. It simply ISN’T. For 2 reasons. First, there;s nothing radical about that mosque, even though it is faces threats from ignorant islamophobes. And the 2nd reason is, so far there is no evidence he WAS “radicalized,” and in fact as I already pointed out, his remarks that night are confused and contradictory. So far taken at face value it adds up to someone who did not even understand radical fundamentalist sunni extremists. To the point where experts on that world are taking his comments as confused posturing. It certainly doesn’t explain why he would target a gay bar where he himself had been a frequent patron.
The Fox narrative is constructed by agenda types. As it always is. It;s not news, it;s cheerleading for certain views.
June 16, 2016 at 1:34 pm #46351bnwBlockedI said POSSIBLY his mosque. It was through his mosque that he was in contact with a known jihadi which was why the FBI had questioned him
The actual reports on that concluded that “contact” was nothing.
And I submit that it is not even POSSIBLY his mosque. It simply ISN’T. For 2 reasons. First, there;s nothing radical about that mosque, even though it is faces threats from ignorant islamophobes. And the 2nd reason is, so far there is no evidence he WAS “radicalized,” and in fact as I already pointed out, his remarks that night are confused and contradictory. So far taken at face value it adds up to someone who did not even understand radical fundamentalist sunni extremists. To the point where experts on that world are taking his comments as confused posturing. It certainly doesn’t explain why he would target a gay bar where he himself had been a frequent patron.
The Fox narrative is constructed by agenda types. As it always is. It;s not news, it;s cheerleading for certain views.
You’ve just described ABC, CBS, NBC, MSNBC and CNN too.
No his remarks that were contradictory were to the FBI some time ago. Unless you can prove he was telling the truth then, I’d say he wanted the FBI to believe he wasn’t a threat. On the night of the massacre he was quite clear as to his motivation which was definitely terrorism.
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June 16, 2016 at 5:00 pm #46364znModeratorGay Muslim: Islam Is No Religion of Peace
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/06/16/gay-muslim-islam-is-no-religion-of-peace.html
Like the other two monotheisms that precede it, Islam has blood on its hands.
“What’s his name?” I asked my husband as he woke me to tell me of the carnage in Orlando. “It’s going to be a Muslim name.”
I just knew it. I had never been one to racially profile my own community. But this time my premonition was right.
A few years ago, in Islamic year 1432, I was in Mecca on the hajj pilgrimage. I shared a meal with an older Yemeni at Al Baiq, the Saudi version of KFC. We discussed the monstrous Kingdom Tower looming over the Kaaba, the beating heart of my faith, where millions of Muslims converge every year to perform the rituals that make up Islam’s highest calling. The bin Laden family was responsible for its construction, along with the destruction of countless historic sites and artifacts of Islamic history to pave the way for resort hotels and other conveniences reserved for the 1 percent.
“It’s like King Abdullah’s erection,” I told the man.
“But Sheikh Osama destroyed America’s largest penises, didn’t he?” the man replied with a chuckle. His casual joking about the slaughter of thousands chilled me.
And “Sheikh Osama”? I could not return his laughter. This man seemed to be able to tolerate my Americanness, but if he’d had any idea that I was gay, he would have yanked his arm from my shoulder and walked away without a word.
Parvez Sharma
Photo Illustration by The Daily Beast
The carnage in Orlando has shaken my very core, but after my experiences traveling throughout the Middle East as a gay man (open in some countries, fully closeted in others), I cannot say I am surprised. Any identity I have ever claimed now lies exposed as a wound that will never heal. Saying “gay Muslim” seems like a reason for damnation.
I’ve spent the last decade of my life making two films. The first, A Jihad For Love, is about the lives of gay Muslims throughout the world. The second, A Sinner In Mecca, dealt with my own personal journey and my effort to reconcile my faith and my sexuality in Islam’s holiest places, surrounded by people who would sooner see me publicly beaten, thrown off a cliff or beheaded.
These are strange times. It is a season of Islamophobia in America, where Donald Trump whips up xenophobia with a tweet. What he doesn’t realize is that he’s attacking a religion that’s already at war with itself. Muslims like me have fought hard not to become casualties. We have always had our Omar Mateens. In the U.S., they manifest as lone crazed gunmen. But in Saudi Arabia and elsewhere, they are on the royal payroll.
A cursory look at the pages of ISIS’s glossy magazine, Dabiq, reveals the group’s ideology. They gloat—and show high-res photos—about throwing homosexuals off the tallest buildings that somehow remain standing in the wastelands they’ve created.
The latest American news reports suggest Omar Mateen himself was a closeted gay Muslim who harbored an immense self-loathing. A few nights ago, he murderously redirected this loathing toward dozens of young brown gay men who were enjoying their first tastes of a profound freedom and acceptance that he probably felt he could never truly enjoy with the same carefree abandon.
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The same defensive, apologist Muslims are called upon every time something like this happens. I, too, have been called several times, but have so far refused the TV parts because I am not sure what I have to say is palatable. Mateen, the homophobic gay Muslim, is not a new phenomenon. The Muslim religious elite is directly responsible for inspiring the guilt and self-hatred that this man must have felt, needlessly struggling with his sexuality. And then he became a mass murderer, whose actions can never be condoned.
What I do know is this. As a devout gay Muslim I am not going to make a claim that “Islam is a religion of peace.”
Growing up in a small Indian town with a large Muslim population, I heard young men talking about jihad in Kashmir and Palestine. I have even heard such matters discussed in hushed whispers at Manhattan’s 96th St. mosque, where I sometimes go and pray on Fridays and where subjugation of women is discussed in the open without the blink of an eye. The mosque was built largely with Saudi money, and its Imams often come equipped with the perversions of Wahhabi ideology.
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A few weeks after September 11th, its Imam at the time, Sheik Muhammad Gemeaha resigned and left hastily for his native Egypt. He was quoted in The New York Times as having said amongst much else including the familiar deriding of “homosexuality” “‘only the Jews’ were capable of destroying the World Trade Center” and added that ‘’if it became known to the American people, they would have done to Jews what Hitler did.”
Calling Islam a religion of peace is dangerous and reductive. Like the other two monotheisms that precede it, it has blood on its hands. It’s time we Muslims start looking inward at our own communities so that the bloodshed can stop. I’m convinced that Mateen’s attitude is not fringe. It can be found everywhere from Mecca to my own mosque in New York City.
The vast canon of Islam that emerged after the Prophet Muhammad’s life has enough sanction for violence, if you know what you are looking for. And there is no lack of homophobic condemnation either. The Quran itself remains vague on the matter, lazily regurgitating the Old and New Testament’s story of the Nation of Lot. And for the majority of 1.6 billion Muslims, many of them plagued by poverty and illiteracy, the debates going on amongst the Western Muslim pundits, will make no sense. What they listen to is Khutba (Friday sermon) after Khutba that talks about homosexuality as a sin amongst other matters of religious import.
Yes, most Muslims are muddling through life, putting food on their families’ tables just like everyone else. There are countless sectarian divisions within the vast faith. But if even a fraction of a percentage of this population believes gays should be put to death, we have a problem that cannot be dismissed so easily.
I, too, fear backlash from a fearful conservative America. I finally won an American passport last year and am officially an American citizen. Will I be singled out at the airport with increasing frequency? Will Muslims like me, desperate to get into the United States, be able to taste freedom here?
I went to my first gay bar almost 20 years ago in New York City. I had just landed in the United States. My cousin who hosted me on my visit swears that I kissed the ground (though I suspect he’s embellishing). I lost myself in the music, the dance, and most importantly the love. There are millions of other gay Muslims in the world, desperate to experience such love.
In 2010, I stood outside a nightclub called Acid, perched on a Beirut cliff. It was Ramadan, and Acid was one of the precious few openly gay nightclubs in all of the Arab Middle East. I shared a cigarette with a friend called Babak as a car with Saudi tags rolled up.
“That’s a rich Saudi prince!” Babak said. He often comes here to cruise! You have no idea how many rich Saudi fuckers come here. We Beirutis must screw well! The Saudis? They walk around like they are so butch but once naked they are all bottoms.”
Babak was the twentysomething founder of Bear Arabia who organized “Bear” tours of Lebanon, Syria, and Jordan for western gay men keen to sample the delights of the region. Bears, for those unfamiliar with Western homosexuality, are the gay men who do not confirm to “body fascist” stereotypes and flaunt the hair on their bodies and the ample meat on their bones. Or as my husband Keith liked to say, “They are just gay men who have given up.”
I was in Beirut to do open screenings of my first film for the first time in an Arab capital. It felt like a special moment. Babak, who I would call an activist like any other, was furious at the time because a New York Times article had come out labeling the city the Provincetown of the Middle East. To me it seemed absurd. From our vantage point we were looking at the expanse of Dahiyeh, Beirut’s southern suburb. That was Hezbollah land, bombed to smithereens in 2006. This remained a deeply divided city.
On that journey, I hooked up with a handsome man who later confided in me that he was a member of Hezbollah’s social media division. We’d met on Manjam, a gay hookup website. He was married, with three kids. When we were finished, he performed the elaborate, obligatory post-sex cleansing ritual called the ghusl at almost 4:30 in the morning.
For a brief moment I wondered how the world might be different if these closeted Muslims, from Saudi princes to Hezbollah warriors, could experience the love that I now feel in the arms of my husband Keith. The best chance they have is coming to America, and I’m now afraid that door is closing shut.June 16, 2016 at 6:30 pm #46371wvParticipant…Gay Muslim…
The carnage in Orlando has shaken my very core, but after my experiences traveling throughout the Middle East as a gay man (open in some countries, fully closeted in others), I cannot say I am surprised. Any identity I have ever claimed now lies exposed as a wound that will never heal. Saying “gay Muslim” seems like a reason for damnation.
I’ve spent the last decade of my life making two films. The first, A Jihad For Love, is about the lives of gay Muslims throughout the world. The second, A Sinner In Mecca, dealt with my own personal journey and my effort to reconcile my faith and my sexuality in Islam’s holiest places, surrounded by people who would sooner see me publicly beaten, thrown off a cliff or beheaded.
These are strange times. It is a season of Islamophobia in America, where Donald Trump whips up xenophobia with a tweet. What he doesn’t realize is that he’s attacking a religion that’s already at war with itself. Muslims like me have fought hard not to become casualties…——————-
These stories about christians or muslims who remain ‘of the faith’ but want to
‘reform’ their particular Religion/superstition…always leave me smiling…and sighing.I mean, yes, I am in favor of humans reforming their fairy-tales
and making them less patriarchal, less bloody, less racist, less homophobic, etc.But yet…I wish-ta-god they didnt need their damn infantile fairy-tales
to begin with.What a planet. Fairy-Tales and Corporations are gonna be the death of us all.
And tornadoes. The weather people are saying we may have tornadoes around here
this evening. I just hope they are not radical-islamic tornadoes.w
vJune 16, 2016 at 6:33 pm #46372znModeratorAnd tornadoes. The weather people are saying we may have tornadoes around here this evening.
And theme parks.
Mysteriously, you left out theme parks.
June 16, 2016 at 7:25 pm #46380InvaderRamModeratorjust to play devil’s advocate. and to be clear i am not saying this guys is a terrorist. not based on what we know now.
just because he might have been gay doesn’t mean he wasn’t a terrorist. i mean i’m sure there are some isis jihadists out there somewhere who are closeted self-loathing homosexuals. i mean the odds of that have to be pretty good i would think.
just as the chances of there being some closeted self-loathing homsexual fundamelist/extremist christians out there are pretty good i would think.
but again. not saying he IS a terrorist. just that being a homosexual doesn’t preclude that.
i think the mosque in question. i think that there were some articles that were trying to connect him to the florida bomber who went to syria??? and that they may have met at the same mosque???
his mention of hezbollah comes from another time when he had mentioned to coworkers that he had connections with them. in any case, he does seem very confused unless this was some elaborate scheme to throw off federal law enforcement although i doubt that.
June 16, 2016 at 7:37 pm #46382InvaderRamModeratornow i’m reading that this florida bomber had connections to the nusra front whereas mateen pledged allegiance to isis which would seem to put them at odds with one another.
- This reply was modified 8 years, 6 months ago by InvaderRam.
June 17, 2016 at 4:32 am #46409MackeyserModeratorYeah, you don’t read my novels…er…posts, do ya, IR? LOL
Sports is the crucible of human virtue. The distillate remains are human vice.
June 17, 2016 at 6:44 pm #46452InvaderRamModeratorit’s hard to keep up with all these threads sometimes. sorry.
June 18, 2016 at 4:09 pm #46513znModeratorOne person’s view…from off the net
Che Brandes-Tuka
So after a couple of days of reports and testimonies, we know the following about the Orlando shooter:
He was a child of immigrants, born and raised in the United States.
He pledged allegiance to Hezbollah, Al-Qaeda AND ISIS, 3 organizations that are de facto at war with each other, showing he was ignorant about all 3, let alone politics in the Middle East in general.
He knew practically nothing about Islam and according to his wife, father and community he was not religious in the slightest.
He struggled with his toxic masculinity, had an alcohol problem and beat up his wife for which he was never charged.
He was racist towards Blacks, Latin@’s and other minorities and in the shooting killed predominantly queer people of color.
Despite his own alleged queer inclinations, he was a homophobe in a country where still 1 in 5 LGBTQ people are victims of hate crimes and there are more than a 100 anti-LGBTQ bills (from anti-gay marriage to bathroom bills) pending in dozens of states.
He beat juveniles in detention centers over the head for a living as he worked for and got his training from the private security firm G4S, which is not only one of the foremost stakeholders in the Prison–industrial complex, but is also invested in mass deportations as it runs immigration detention centers and participates in the occupation of Palestine, training other mass killers in Israel to target and imprison Palestinians.
He staged a mass shooting in a country that has seen a 1,000 mass shootings in the last 1,200 days.
Sorry folks, but your supposed “Islamic radical terrorist from Afghan” is as American as apple pie made with homegrown apples and baked in an American made oven.
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